A lot of my friends are going to Rome next year, but I’ve chosen not to due to personal and health reasons. Every time someone asks me if I’m going and I say I’m not, they make a big deal out of it and I start to feel uncomfortable. What should I do when I find myself in this situation?
There definitely is a lot of social pressure related to UD’s Rome campus — whether you choose to go in the fall, spring, summer or not at all — but I’m sorry people seem to be giving you a hard time.
The important thing is to remember that you’re not the only one who will opt out of Rome and putting your own health and well-being first is a higher priority than a semester abroad.
People tend to think that you’ll only hang out with your Rome class when you return to Irving, but I promise that isn’t the case. Plus, think of it this way: as a “Nomer” you’ll have the opportunity to get to know everyone in your class during your sophomore year. You can be the bridge between the “Fromer” and “Spromer” rivalry during your upperclassmen days.
Rome is certainly a formative experience, but at the end of the day it’s a grand total of three and a half months of your life. By the time you’re getting ready to graduate, your sophomore year will feel like forever ago.
Remember to stick up for yourself and don’t be afraid to let people know that you’re uncomfortable. They most likely aren’t intending to be malicious and if they’re not terrible people, they’ll be sure to leave you be on the subject.
You can make your own adventures no matter where you are! So get out there and forge your own path here, stateside.
You got this!
I feel like I have so much to do and such little time. I have homework, studying, extracurriculars, and the list goes on and on. How do I manage my time wisely to ensure that I take care of myself? Thx!
Stressed Out Student
Honestly, I’m not sure if I’m the best person to give you advice on this one. My response to stress is hibernation…
Ok, but here’s some actually good time management/self-care tips: 1) Work on creating an actual sleep schedule. All nighters will do nothing but make your life miserable. 2) Make sure to prioritize your to-do list and strive to complete the most important things first. 3) Eat well balanced meals regularly — PSA: coffee is not a meal.
Don’t be afraid to give yourself a mental health day every now and then too. A simple evening of destressing — whatever that looks like for you — can help reset the rest of your week so you’re more productive.
Treat yo-self … within moderation, that is.