I’ve recently decided to once again join UD’s peculiar dating pool. My problem is that while I often have great conversations and “click” with people quickly … I’m not religious! I don’t plan to become religious! While I am completely fine with the idea of dating a Catholic — I go to UD — I find myself worrying about my different values compared to most others at UD. How can I reconcile seriously dating someone if I think I will end up damaging their faith — something that I know they hold dear?
Dear Mr. Contrarian,
Well, the best thing to do would just be upfront with people. If you get along well with someone, let them know about your beliefs — or rather lack thereof — before things get too serious. Honesty and communication is the best policy.
How they respond is up to them. Some Catholics are OK with dating people who don’t share their faith. It depends on the individual person and their relationship with the Church.
Don’t be entirely discouraged. It is possible to date someone of a different faith and not damage their relationship with Christ. It does mean, however, that you have to be accepting and supportive of it. You also should be aware of the extra struggles that go along with this difference.
10 years from now, are you going to support your spouse raising your children in a different faith? Are you comfortable with your significant other sharing their faith with you? Would you go to Mass with them if they asked?
These are all things to consider, but they don’t necessarily bar you from entering the dating scene here on campus. It’ll be more work, but it can be done, and when someone is worth that effort to you, that’s how you know that it’s a good fit.
Do you have any creative ideas for making some extra cash in college?
Broke College Student
The most fun way to make a quick buck is to capitalize on the talents and passions you do have. You could try selling art on Etsy or busking along a busy street in Dallas … or writing anonymous advice in your school newspaper.
If you’re good with kids, there are tons of babysitting gigs available both on and off campus — shout out to local alumni for paying me to watch movies with your children.
You can also look into getting any number of the available student worker jobs on campus. They’re flexible to fit your class schedule, plus these jobs are a fun way to get involved in different departments around campus!
Becoming a good Cap Bar barista is a great way to earn some brownie points with the caffeine-addicted populace, and Lord knows how grateful I am to the library student workers when I’m working on research projects. I’d suggest checking the website to see what’s available and try to snag one of these jobs for next year.
For those of you who don’t want to work on campus, I know that Lamberti’s is often willing to hire UD students as servers. Beyond that, LinkedIn will probably be more helpful than I am. The only other thing I can think of would be selling stuff on the black market … but no one has ever given me directions to the place and I happen to like my kidneys where they are, thank you.
If all else fails and you’re looking to creatively earn $10, you’re always welcome to come write an article for the University News!
Happy fortune hunting,