Just recently I realized there’s someone in my class who just really dislikes me … maybe kind of hates me. I don’t think I did anything to justly inspire such a strong annoyance, but I feel awful knowing that I, just as myself, could make someone feel that way. What do I do?
Dear Social Pariah,
Not gonna lie to you, that’s a tough situation.
Realizing that not everyone is going to like you is a hard pill to swallow, but it’s simply the reality of life.
Think about this — do you like everyone that you know? Unless you’re a perfect saint of a person, the answer is almost certainly no. Sometimes someone is just not your cup of tea, and if you haven’t done anything terrible to this person, that might be the case here.
That doesn’t mean either of you are less worthy of love or anything like that. It just means that you should probably find different people to hang out with.
Focus on living a good, moral life. Work on yourself and strive to be a better person in and of yourself. As long as you’re working on that, there’s no reason you should base your self worth on the opinions of others.
Surround yourself with people who love you for you and don’t try to force people to like you. Bending over backwards in order to get people to like you just means that you’re the one who gets hurt in the end.
Remember to love yourself,