Hey furry friend,
I’m spending Valentine’s Day alone this year, for the first time in about three years. How do I survive this year without drinking too much wine?
Much love, but not for any boys,
I know all too well the trials and tribulations of facing this particular holiday sans romance. Honestly, what gets me through most of the time is the thought of discounted chocolate on Feb. 15.
In all seriousness, being single after a long-term relationship can be a good opportunity for you to get to know yourself better. Who are you independent of any other person?
Take this day associated with romance and, in a sense, romance yourself. Go do something you’ve been really wanting to do or simply take a self-care day.
Have you been wanting to go see that new exhibit at the Dallas Museum of Art? Go! Do you just want to stay home and paint your nails? Glitter nail polish is always a mood booster! Are you simply craving your favorite takeout? Comfort food is called comforting for a reason!
And if you don’t want to be alone, celebrate Valentine’s Day with your fellow single friends. Whether y’all choose to have a movie marathon or go out on the town, you’re bound to have more fun with the people you love — even if that love is only platonic.
Buy your own roses this year!
I recently got out of a long-term relationship. Suddenly friends who were very platonic — at least in my mind!! — are flirting with me. Before I could blow people off with the typical and very annoying, “I have a BOYFRIEND,” but now I don’t have that go-to excuse. How do I politely friendzone people without hurting their feelings?
It can be rough to realize that your friends look at you in a different way than you thought. As awkward as it may be, however, you will have to face their flirtations head-on.
One thing to remember is that you don’t owe them a detailed explanation. You can simply say, “Thank you, but I’m not interested” and leave it at that.
Keep it short and sweet but honest. It’s going to suck because both being rejected and doing the rejecting is uncomfortable. In the end, it’ll be better to get it done sooner rather than later.
Good luck out there,