I’ve hit mid-semester burnout. Lots of friend drama, classes are getting overwhelming, and it feels like everyone has found their group and is having a great time already. How do I get over this bump in the road?
Dear Midterm Blues,
We’ve all been there before. It’s easy to compare yourself to those around you and the cultivated image that they put up on social media. However, I guarantee that there are tons of other people on campus who feel the same way you do.
As cliché as it may be, it sounds like you need a self-care day. Sometimes all it takes is a day off to reset and get your energy back. Do something fun or relaxing, or better yet, take a nice long nap. I’d honestly suggest turning notifications off for the day too.
In terms of friend drama, there’s nothing wrong with distancing yourself from some people if the friendship isn’t working out. Of course, still be kind and cordial, but you can delegate them to the zone of a “hello friend” — someone you say hello to, but you don’t have deeper, personal conversations with.
And it’s never too late to start building new friendships or join a friend group. Sure, they may already have memories together and some inside jokes, but you can always build more with them.
Get out there and do what you enjoy! The easiest way to make friends who care about you is to be authentically yourself.
Life may seem overwhelming right now, but trust me, it’ll all work out.
You got this,
What are some tips for studying and time management?
I hope you can forgive me for not responding to you before midterms week. (I may need to work on my own time management!)
In general though, my biggest tips for studying and time management are getting out of your room and turning off your phone.
Find yourself a dedicated study spot on campus separate from where you sleep. Psychology students can confirm that it will help you sleep and study better. Trust me, it’s no fun to fall asleep mid paragraph on your twin sized dorm bed.
And when you find that study space that works for you, put your phone away while you’re there!
Phones are a giant source of distraction and if you don’t set a timer, you can easily get sucked into scrolling on your phone for hours. Modern-day social media apps are designed to be addictive!
Putting timers on some of my apps has been a great help towards limiting my screen time. While I might still get distracted — as I’d much rather watch a YouTube video than write my six page paper — it’s for a shorter period of time.
Beyond that, you’ll have to find out what works best for you in terms of studying. Whether it’s flashcards, highlighting, bouncing ideas off of friends or rewriting notes that does the trick for you, there’s bound to be some studying hack that fits with your brain.
What’s the best way to let someone down easy?
Need a Breakup Line
Dear Breakup Line,
Plain and simple: rejection is difficult, whether you’re the one being rejected or the one doing the rejecting. It is, however, better to be direct than to lead someone on. Even if it is spooky season, don’t ghost someone!
Now I could tell you to use the classic, “it’s not you, it’s me” or the ever famous, “I’m just not interested in dating right now,” but those are not going to go over well if you’re not sincere.
Instead try something like, “Thanks for your interest in me, but I just don’t see you the same way” or, “You’re a great person, but I don’t think it would work out between us.”
While these types of conversations are hard, you gotta do what you gotta do.
Be gentle, heartbreaker,