This week, I decided to write about everyone’s favorite topic here at the University of Dallas: dating. But not just the run-of-the-mill boyfriend/girlfriend dating; I’m talking about good, old-fashioned, casual dating.
A lot of UD students may be shaking their heads as they read this, thinking, “Why would I casually date? I date to marry.” And I completely agree. I don’t think you should date anyone exclusively that you couldn’t see yourself marrying.
But how are you supposed to determine if you’d want to date someone in the long term without actually going on a date with him or her? Since we are at UD and we define our terms, I would define a date as “an outing where two people can get to know each other in an intimate setting.”
There are a ton of benefits to going on dates. 1) You get a chance to know someone in a one-on-one setting away from everyone else, 2) you get a better sense of what you are looking for and 3) it’s just a lot more fun!
So here’s my advice to all of you freshmen (and some of the upperclassmen). Guys, find a girl you would like to get to know and ask her out. If you have money to spare, take her out to dinner. Running low on funds? Go to the Cap Bar and grab a drink. Better yet, take her on a walk. Walks around campus are the best way to get to know someone because you can talk to him or her without interruption.
And ladies, don’t hesitate to ask guys out, too. It’s a date, not a marriage proposal! Go out, have a great conversation and see what happens. Plus, even if you aren’t romantically compatible, you might have just gained a really great friend. Happy dating, and may the odds be ever in your favor!